A United Front
In marriage we know that you must become one. This takes time, effort, forgiveness, being humble, and love. To become united, you must be traveling in the same direction on the same path. If you are both going in different directions, you will never come together. Think about your marriage today and ask yourself if you are spending time communicating and implementing unity.
Unity is something we discuss in the bible consistently. To accomplish any goals, God’s people had to be on the same page, to walk together, and they had to be in agreement. Moses, Joshua, David, any of the greats we read about had to have unity. When there was disunity, they had many trials, judgement, and even death. We also read about the tower of babel where they did have unity, and meant to do their own thing and not follow what God had said. As a result, God confused their speech to disperse them to His will. Unity can be good or bad depending on the goal. When you give God your marriage, and do His will, unity is a blessed endeavor.
When you first get married their may be times you feel really split on what you think, believe, and how you act. On the day of your wedding, you are in one accord, but you are two different people who have to learn to bend your own wills to come together for the greater good. Our Pastor always says, “Whoever has the greater conviction, go with it.” Obviously, this is to be in line with the word of God, and still keeping order in your home.
Order is so important in your marriage, if you have this right, there will be peace, joy, and love. No matter the trial, or situation, order brings peace. God first, next the husband, who has been given the direction from God to love his wife as Christ loved the church that He died for it. The wife is next in order, who keeps the home, and then the children. Lots of people today get out of order and their lives are filled with pain and loss. Divorce comes, and then the order is even harder to put in place, but God never changes the word, or order based on this separation. Blended families struggle with this as well.
In a godly home, we have to keep a united front. No matter if it is a first marriage, or a blended family, when children are present we have to keep order, and a united front with the parents. This is something you should discuss before marriage, at the beginning, and throughout the marriage. You will not always agree, but you will need to come to an agreement. If you don’t you will have issues that could lead to major problems in your marriage. You become one flesh with your spouse, your children will grow up and move out, and you two will be left to live out your lives together. This is a great thing, but many today look at it as a hindrance.
When it comes to decisions, discipline, sports, boundaries, church, and what is expected, you have to come to an agreement. Do this before you have children, and revisit it often. Division can come in a marriage, when one parent says “yes,” and the other says “no.” Usually there is one parent who is more of an authoritarian and one who is more of a permissive parent. We are all supposed to be more authoritative, which is a middle ground parent. So you have to work together to become united.
Family And Friends
Even in family situations, along with friends, you have to become and remain a united front. God said what He puts together let no man put asunder. In other words no one should come between you and your spouse. Becoming united, holds that bond together, and lets the world know, you are one. Family and friends can be well meaning, but if it causes you and your spouse to fight and go down different roads in life, you need to reassess and ask the Lord to help you come to a place of unity again.
Our prayer for you today is that the Lord will help you to become one, and to keep a united front. It takes time to do this, so give yourself grace, ask for help of a trusted leader in your church that has a great marriage. Everyone goes through the ups and downs of life and in marriage, so know they didn’t get there overnight. They prayed, fasted, forgave, apologized, loved, cried, fought, and so many more emotions and actions. Take time today to sit down and ask God to help you set godly ideals, principles, and boundaries in your marriage and you too can have a happily ever married marriage!!
Monday: Ephesians 5:31 says, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.” Becoming one in marriage is a process, pray today and ask God to help you to become one.
Tuesday: Philippians 2:2 says, “Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, [being] of one accord, of one mind.” When we have unity Gods way we will be blessed in our marriage!! To be like Christ!
Wednesday: Romans 12:16 says, “[Be] of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.” Stay in line with the word and stay humble.
Thursday: Ephesians 5:22-23 says, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” There is order in all that the Lord does! Our marriage is no exception.
Friday: Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” You train your child not your spouse, so remember that order plays a huge role in your home and marriage. You train a child so one day they will leave the nest.
Saturday: 1 Peter 3:8 says, “Finally, [be ye] all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, [be] pitiful, [be] courteous:” When you are parenting remember to be united and compassionate and courteous.
Sunday: Mark 10:9 says, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” No one and nothing should come between you and your spouse. Pray God move to remove hinderances.
Thank you for investing in your marriage and you can have a happily ever married marriage too!!