I have heard it said, "People don't change." This is usually a statement made by someone who has been hurt. People are constantly changing! Yes we may have some things about us that aren't so easy to change, but change does happen! This statement is in the context of people that won't change, not that they can't. You and your spouse are, "people," and you can change. In fact you will change as the years, months, and days go by!
When we look at people, we see they can change if they want to, they can make their lives better, they can live differently, and they can grow! In marriage we see two people who had on rose colored glasses when they headed down the aisle. They thought their significant other could do no wrong. Then, they started to become one. It wasn't that the person they married changed so much, it's that they didn't see all of their flaws.
From the outside looking in to your marriage, you may have family or friends who say, "they will never change." "They will always be the way they are, and it's not worth your time," or even before, "don't marry them." The problem with these statements is that people do change, and theirs is an outside view. Now, sometimes people who love you may see something you don't, and if you trust them and know they have a good marriage, and want the best for you, you may want to listen. Others may be jaded and are stuck in a marriage where they or their spouse may not want to change for the better.
So what about you and your spouse? Do you see change in your personal life, or marriage? Ill say this friend, it is happening and you really can't see it. It's like a tree, you don't see it grow, but its definitely growing!! You and your spouse, if you were married in your early 20's changed a lot by the time you are 25, then your 30's, 40's and so on. There is always a new season of life to embrace.
Not every season is easy or even fun in marriage, but if you learn to embrace it, you will have more peace. Your spouse will change, and you will change too, they will have to learn to see you in a new role, or light, and vice versa. We all change, this is the way God made it. We have to put on Christ and see our spouse as someone who can and will change. Hopefully it's for the better! But in all of this change we can embrace our new season.
What happens when change is bad? How do you handle it when your spouse becomes distant, cold, hurt, or bitter? What if they lose a job, or you lose a child and you both see it differently? Changes comes and we must adapt and be flexible even when we don't know how to, or don't want to see it happen. Love is the answer my friend! Love covers!
Love is how we cover a multitude of sins! Love is how we see our spouse in a way we didn't think they could be, and loving them through it. God is so merciful with us and He is so patient. We on the other hand tend to want things to be back to normal. We hear this over and over in our world today. But unfortunately change has happened and we have to go through it, love is the answer. We have to learn to love in the midst of the turmoil and trials. Jesus lived in a very dangerous and vicious time. He also did so many miracles, loved and even died for us! He is alive today so we can live. This can happen in your marriage today too! Change happens and so we have to learn to change too! Excepting that our marriage and spouse are going to be apart of that change! Embrace the change, love, and you will see miracles!
Monday: 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, "Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come." When we come to Jesus and are filled with the Holy Ghost we become a new creature, we change!!
Tuesday: Colossians 3:10 says, "And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:" We can change, we have to put on the new man!
Wednesday: Psalm 1:1 says, “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.” Be careful to who is your counsel in matters of marriage!
Thursday: Psalm 1:3 says, "And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper." We are likened to trees and have seasons!
Friday: Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:" Learning to embrace the season you are in is so important for peace in your marriage.
Saturday: Colossians 3:12-13 says, "Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. In all of the trials and hurts we experience in marriage we have to forgive!
Sunday: 1 Peter 4:8 says, “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.” love is the answer and we find that love in Jesus and extend it to our spouse!
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