Your husband is a man first, a husband second, and a father third. His order is God, his relationship with Him, you, his relationship with his wife, and his children, a relationship with them. Not every man is a father in the sense that he has biological children, but he is a father to someone. He may have a young man that he mentors, or teaches a sunday school class. Your husband could be a coach, or just a friend to a young man who needs some guidance. Whatever he is to someone else as a father, make sure you celebrate him!! This next Sunday is Fathers Day!!
As a wife, we are busy, we cook, we clean, we teach, we clean some more!! We wear a lot of hats!! One thing we can never be is a father. Our husbands have a special role that they play as a father and they need to be celebrated! They provide, protect, love, tend to the outside, fix the (insert word), admonish, take their family fishing, camping, you name it!! They are the strong men in our lives that make us a family unit!! Celebrate them on Father’s Day, but don’t stop there, do it everyday! How? In how we talk, love, and honor them!
How do you talk to your husband? What about, how do you talk about him to your children? To your friends? We say a lot about ourselves, and our relationship by how we talk. Friends, we need to keep a guard over our mouths! We can get help when needed from a trusted friend, but we need to do our best to speak kindly about them!! They are not perfect, but neither are we. We have to use our words wisely to build them up, the way we talk to them and about them!!
Loving is an action, and how we act towards our husband, and in front of our children, is teaching our daughters and sons how to be treated and how to treat their future children in the relationship of a healthy family. When we love we are forgiving and give grace. We also see love discipline. God is love and we learn from the word how to behave as parents, adults, and in our marriage roles. Love says, “I will treat my husband with affection, respect, and affirm his role as the head of our home.”
Honoring my husband as a father is a big responsibility!! I’ve seen too many that don’t. They disregard anything their spouse says, and in turn the husband stops leading or trying to lead. It’s our job to let them lead!! We as wives have to take a step back when daddy is home and discuss differences behind closed doors. This is easier said than done. I’m not saying you can’t ever discuss something in front of your children, how else will they learn to deal with conflict. What I am saying is that we honor what happens right then and make our hearts heard later if we still disagree. We are teaching them how to be married and how to have order in the home.
This is a tough subject for many as you may have not had a father that was present, loving, protecting, or honorable. First let me say the word says to honor your father and mother that you may have a long life. It doesn’t specify that they have to be good, loving, or even present. Broken relationships lead to more hurt, fear, and rejection, if you don’t take steps to heal. We also have a large group of divorced couples. Please if you are divorced, don’t be the mom that disrespects, and criticized the former spouse. You are hurting your children, that have already been torn apart. Work on building that gap between the dad and your children. Otherwise, your children won’t know how to have a good relationship and the cycle will continue.
He is the balm in Gilead. He is a good, good Father. Whether you know Him as a father or not, He still is the Everlasting Father. He will heal us when we start to spend time with Him in that secret place. Prayer, His word, and fasting all help us to let Him heal us emotionally, spiritually and even physically. He loves us with an everlasting love and wants more than anything for us to be with Him and close to Him! He waits for us like the father of the prodigal son, with open arms, a robe, and a ring. What are you waiting for? Can He love you today? Once we allow Him to heal us we can then start to see how we should treat our husband and celebrate them as a father!! Make it a point this week to find ways to see the father he is and show him your appreciation for him being that wonder father he is!!
Monday: Proverbs 23:24 says, “The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise [child] shall have joy of him.” Pray that the father of your children be celebrated and loved by your children, that they give him joy by the wisdom he imparts into them!
Tuesday: Ephesians 6:4 says, “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” Celebrate the role of the father in your husbands life of them teaching our children of the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Pray this over them.
Wednesday: Psalm 141:3 says, “Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips.” Be careful what and how you say things to and about your husband. Pray God help you to make this a daily prayer!
Thursday: Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Love teaches us how to train up our own children. Pray God help you to know and obey His word and show love as you do so.
Friday: Ephesians 5:22-24 says, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” Order in our homes leads to peace as we honor our husbands as a father.
Saturday: Exodus 20:12 says, “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” Remember your parents weren’t perfect and neither will you be. Give yourself grace and them too. It will help your children to respect you as well.
Sunday: Luke 15:22 says, “But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet:” The father was waiting to show his love to his son. If you do need healing in your marriage, life, or childrens life, pray the heart of the father over your husband and that God would bring the healing balm of Gilead into your home.
Thank you for investing in your marriage and you too can have a happily ever married marriage!!