Fighting For Your Marriage
When you think about fighting for your marriage, do you think it has to be a crisis? Crises, as our Pastors Mom would say, is three major things happening all at once. Most people aren’t in true crisis mode, they are just going through a hardship of sickness, suffering a loss, or maybe they have lost a job. These are all horrible to go through, but when you have all three at the same time, it is a crisis. When life is turned up side down and you don’t even know which way is up…you are in crisis mode.
We have heard it said, when you lose a child, that a lot of marriages don’t last. I can’t even imagine the loss of a child, to be happy one minute with your family, and the next, that child is gone. In the midst of a loss like this things usually go into crisis mode. Bills pile up, the grieving process starts, and both husband and wife deal with it differently. If there were any issues before in the marriage, they will probably be at the for front. How do we fight for our marriage in loss?
What about when sickness strikes your spouse? Maybe it’s the husband, and you wonder how you will make it now? Perhaps you will need to get a job? What if it’s the wife? Now, we are looking at all that a stay at home mom does, or possibly, if she worked outside the home and you depend on both incomes. It can take a toll of everything you do, especially now that you have the added expense and all the emotions that come along with them being sick. How do you cope with sickness in a marriage?
Loss Of A Job
Let’s say one of you loses a job? This happens from time to time, but what if it is something that can’t be replaced quickly? 50% of Americans have less than one month saved for a rainy day or for emergencies, per Dave Ramsey, and with the loss of a job, if this is you, you are at a standstill . Debt is the other issue, if you have debt, it is in your face as soon as any disaster strikes. Lots of marriages end due to debt. Can we fight for our marriage when this happens, or do we fight one another?
Let me make a declaration. Your marriage is worth fighting for! It is vows we make before God and man to cleave to one another, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do you part. Sadly, most only mean the first part of each statement and forget the last part. We completely understand that you cannot force someone to stay with you, and if it is truly abusive, then you need to be safe. But I am speaking to something within us that says, even in the worse case scenario, I will fight for my marriage!!
What About A Good Marriage?
If you are content, happy, blessed, things are great, keep walking, things will never stay that way. We will always have trial and tribulations that test our faith, but we need to do it together. Fighting for a good marriage, an amazing marriage, or a bad marriage is always God’s plan. Why? Because God said what He put together no man should separate. We can start now fighting for our marriage, by learning to be intentional, investing, and protecting our marriage.
Protecting Your Marriage
When you fight for your marriage, you can start day one. You can set parameters that are boundaries, that you both agree to. You can be intentional about what you watch, listen to, read, who you allow in your circle of friends, and the list goes on and on. Make it known to any predator, whether you think they are or not, that you are married and not interested. If one of you is uncomfortable around a couple or someone, listen, and run the other way. When loss, sickness, losing a job, etc. happens, work together to get through. Having already fought for your marriage in the beginning will keep it, and this happens through prayer, fasting, the word and being apart of and serving in your local church!
Our prayer for you is that you learn to fight for your marriage on your knees in prayer, with good and healthy communication. We pray for you to start fighting day one, with protection, boundaries, and allowing the order of God to be in your home. You too can have a happily ever married marriage!!!
Monday: Romans 8:37 says, “Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.” No matter what comes into your marriage we are more than conquerors through Jesus!
Tuesday: Psalm 33:21 says, “For our heart shall rejoice in him, because we have trusted in his holy name.” If loss comes into your life and marriage, you can make it and have joy one day again. When you trust in Him, peace will come through the process of grieving, and you can have a blessed marriage.
Wednesday: Isaiah 53:5 says, “But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.” How do we fight for our marriage with sickness? We do it through His word! Speak life!
Thursday: Proverbs 22:7 says, “The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.” Fight for your marriage by getting and keeping your finances under control. This may take time but agree and stick to a plan. This will help with the negative emotions that come from having debt.
Friday: Galatians 6:2 says, “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.” You fight for your marriage by bearing one another’s burdens!
Saturday: John 16:33 says, “These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” Trials will come but He has overcome the world!!
Sunday: Genesis 39:9 says, “There is none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back any thing from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” If you have the right order you can flee any temptation that comes against your marriage because you have set boundaries for yourself before hand.
Thank you for investing in your marriage!!