Reality
Sometimes reality seems bleak. It can cause us to lose hope if all we see is the reality of the problem. A couple who is on the brink of divorce sometimes will only see freedom as their only answer. Other times reality is the spouse leaves for someone else, or they don't want to stay. IF there is anything I could say to this couple, I would say this, "Love Overcomes!!"
Hurt Is Real
When your spouse isn't talking, responding, or may even seem distant, it could be that they have a lot of hurt they have never dealt with. Getting to the root of the problem is key to having a healthy, successful marriage. It's not something to just get over, it is something they need to heal from and deal with. It can take years, but if they are willing and you can be supportive, you my friend, can have an amazing marriage!!
Shame
Sin causes shame. Period. If you have been in sin, or have been the victim of sin, shame can rule your emotions. Pornography, sexual abuse, affairs, drugs, alcohol and other sin can ruin any marriage. Shame comes when we don't know how to deal with sin in our lives. Addictions can be overwhelming to the one in bondage by it. It affects your marriage, children, work, and everything else. It is something that needs to be taken to the cross of Calvary, but you can't stop there.
Getting Help
When you are in bondage to something you can't seem to fix, even after you have repented, sometimes you need to seek professional help. You need to find the root of the hurt that took you to that dark place. Only then can you see what triggers may cause you to fall. You also may need your spouse, and children to have counciling to help with the after affects of the damage caused by the path you have taken.
Patience
If you are the spouse who is being hurt by the addiction of your spouse, then you will need to have a lot of patience, love, and forgiveness. This isn't saying you need to be a doormat, but its also not a license to leave unless you are in danger. We make vows, "to love them, for better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to death do us part. This might just be the worse. If you can be patient and hold on, trust God, and stick it out, the other side, will be the better.
Love Overcomes
Overcoming is not just a word we say, a song we sing, it's the glue to our marriage when things get tough. We may have to get over something hard, hurtful, and sometimes devastating. But you tell yourself the story that you live. IF you constantly tell the story to yourself and others that it will never change, it's so bad, and you will never get over it, you won't. When Love comes on the scene, you can overcome any obstacle.
Jesus Is Love
Jesus is that love!! He is what we don't know how to be. He is our example, our help, and our Rock. "When I think of the goodness of Jesus and all He has done for me, my soul cries out hallelujah, thank God for saving me." You see my friend, He is the friend that sticks closer than a brother, and can give you a supernatural healing for your marriage when you allow the mercy He extended you to be extended to your spouse. When they can receive it for themselves. Love Conquers All!! LOVE Overcomes!! Try it today, cry out, reach out, and allow God to heal your broken marriage.
Scriptures
Monday: 1 John 5:4 says, "For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith." We can have victory when we put trust and faith in Jesus.
Tuesday: Hebrews 12:15 says, “Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;” It affects everyone when hurt is present and not dealt with, it can so easily turn into bitterness.
Wednesday: Genesis 3:10 says, "He said, “I heard the sound of You in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid myself.” It started in the garden and is still present today, but Jesus came so we could be in His presence once more.
Thursday: Proverbs 11:14 says, "Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety." In shame it may be hard to reach out, but when you have counsel there is safety.
Friday: Romans 12:12 says, "Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer." This is perfect for learning patience, we rejoice in the Hope of Jesus, we learn to be patient in tribulation, and being and continuing in instant prayer for our spouse.
Saturday: 1 John 5:5 says, "Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God?" Jesus is the answer to every problem, and He did over come the world, so we need to believe and He can work it out.
Sunday: Psalm 61:2 says, “From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” Try Him my friend, He is that Rock!!!
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