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  • Writer's pictureJanene Brown

Tackling Tough Territory

Muddy Waters

This year has definitely not been a year of perfect vision.  If anything it’s a little muddy.  Have you ever been on a trip to a lake and it’s a beautiful clear day, the sun is out, the water is warm, no clouds in the sky and the water is crystal clear?  Once I was blessed to go to Lake Tahoe, and that was the clearest and most pristine lake I have have seen!  You can see the fish and everything in it.  What happens when the clouds roll in and the rain starts to pour?  The waters that were so clear just get muddy and there is no visibility.  That seems to be 2020.  It could be where you are in your marriage right now, or it could be how you feel navigating in this tough territory of 2020 with your spouse.


We used to go to the Indiana Caverns when I was a child. It was really pretty as you would take a walk in caves, see beautiful waterfalls, and formations! Something most people don’t do on a daily basis, unless you work there. It was new territory that was hard to get acclimated to. Now I don’t know if I would like it too much as I am not big on being underground in close spaces. Isn’t that how marriage can be sometimes? You are in uncharted territory and it can be dark, muddy, rough, close spaces trying to find your way. But oh the beautiful formations and waterfalls you see if you keep walking, and there is light at the end of the tunnel!!

Keep Walking

What happens when you keep walking?  Life will take you in dark places, muddy water, mountain tops, valleys, beside beautiful waterfalls, and on the adventure of your life!  Why do we keep walking?  The view will eventually change, things will get better and you will see that light that feels like a breath of fresh air!  Tackling tough terrains can seem scary at times but don’t stop, keep walking and tackle it head on!  Your marriage will need you to keep walking.


This year has had much sickness, fear, dark days, and moments of the unknown.  We don’t have to live in fear though.  Sickness doesn’t have to be our every thought.  Yes there is a virus and yes we have people we know who has had or currently have it.  Maybe you have gotten it and you have to separate from your spouse for a time, or you both have it, and the emotional rollercoaster seems overwhelming at times.  Its real and you can and will go through a wide variety of emotions, but it’s not a place you stay.  You speak faith and trust God.  You pray and trust He knows and has you.

Fear Factor

What happens when fear over takes you.  It can be frightening.  We have seen people who have passed who had it, they also all had underlying conditions.  In March we were all probably in the same boat and our marriages either got better or worse.  We had to learn a territory of the unknown.  Fear gripped many, and you could have felt hopeless and scared.  Some still do, marriages had an uptick in abuse, and children had no safe haven.  Yes, it is real and fear was a major factor.  Your marriage doesn’t have to suffer though.  You can see blessing come out of all of this mess.

Factor In Faith

Your marriage could factor in faith and see supernatural blessings poured out on you!!  You still have to endure, face, and walk through this trial, but you can come out purified as gold!  Faith is an amazing thing, it lifts, encourages, draws, and changes the atmosphere of everything in its path!!   Remind yourself to speak life, speak faith, and speak the word.  Faith will do wonders for your marriage whatever the situation.  So when you feel all is lost, or you don’t know where the money will come from, speak the word.  “My God shall supply all of my needs according to His riches and glory in Christ Jesus!”  “The word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.”  “I shall not die, but live and declare the works of the Lord!”

Start And Finish

What is the starting and finish line in this race?  What does it look like to start and end well in marriage?  It takes a lot of love, patience, forgiveness, laughter, mercy, fun, and trust.  If you feel that has been lost on a rough terrain, know you can pick it back up with a dose of faith and the word!  You can tackle this new territory with boldness and belief.  Just have to start and end with Jesus!  You start your day with the word and end it with the word.  Start with prayer and end with prayer.  You do more than you did yesterday!  Why?  We are living in uncharted territory that is unfamiliar to everyone but God.  He isn’t surprised by any of this!!  He knows where your marriage is, and where your heart is.  So put your trust in Him and you will see His guiding hand as he leads you to Him!  Run to Him!  We are in the last days and need Jesus more than ever!!  Amen!


Monday: Hebrews 13:5 says, “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”  No matter what we go through or even lose this year, be content and trust God for He will never leave us while we tackle this tough terrain.

Tuesday: Romans 5:3 says, “And not only [so], but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;” In marriage we go through so many things, but when we tackle them with the word we gain patience!

Wednesday: 2 Corinthians 5:7 says, “(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)” Keep walking and do it with faith for your marriage, God will lead and direct you! He is right beside you!

Thursday: James 5:14 says, “Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord:” There is hope for your sickness and for your marriage. We have the church and through the church God heals today!

Friday: 1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” Love overcomes fear!

Saturday: Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Faith changes the way we talk and walk. So speak faith! 

Sunday: Psalm 23:2 says, “He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.” This starts by saying the Lord is my Shepard I shall not want… Let’s acknowledge Him and be content and He will lead us.


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