Teamwork Makes The Dream Work
When you look at the relationship between you and your spouse, what do you see? Are you doing your own thing? Are you going in two separate directions? When it comes to your children, do you correct or disregard your spouse? God said to women, we will be a help meet for our husbands, and men are to love their wives as Christ loves the church. We are to love one another, preferring one another. Are you and your spouse a team? Teamwork makes the dream work!
Help Meet
Gods plan for women to be a help meet to their husbands is one of complimenting, helping, and working together. Help meet means qualified or made for. There is definitely an order, but even in the order we are a team. If we are to be a team with our husbands, we must find a place of submission. If we submit to God, we can easily submit to our own husbands, as we can trust God will bless us for our obedience. This is why marrying a godly man is so important. So we can put our lives in their hands, not just in the home.
Not Just At Home
Women need to be submitted to their husbands at home, but also in spiritual matters. Some women think that they do what is necessary to make it work at home, but they aren’t submitted in church or following their husband as the head of the home, as the priest of the home. My friend said the other day, “It is better for your husband to lead poorly, than for you to lead your family well.” Following them at home and in all areas is important, especially in spiritual matters.
The Children
Whether you are a single parent home, blended family, or an adoptive family, there is an order God has set in place. It may not seem right and you may not like it, but when God does something, He does it well. His ways are higher than our ways. He has an order that does work when put into practice consistently. Working together as a team is best when it comes to children. It is you both against them. I guarantee they are doing the same thing.
Supporting Their Decision
Once you are married for more than a few minutes, you will see that you both see things differently. When it comes to your children you need to agree on the main things even though you won’t always agree on everything. As a woman of God you need to support your husband when it comes to the decisions he makes in front of the kids, and husbands, vice versa. If one of you disciplines your child, the other needs to support them in that moment. You can disagree later behind closed doors, but you need to be a consistent frontline team. They need stability and you have to give it to them.
Cutting Their Feet Out From Under Them
When you ignore your spouse or do the opposite of what they just said to your children, you are cutting their feet out from under them and it only hurts your children. Especially in a split home this is a hard thing to balance, because all too often one parent or both uses the children to get at each other, or to win the affection of the children. THIS will always backfire! It may not now, but it will years from now when they have no respect for you. So please, rise above, and act like the parent. Try your best to not say anything about the way the other parent disciplines, support them, encourage your children to respect and love them.
Teamwork
Teamwork in marriage is about being intentional, helpful, and looking for ways to prefer your spouse. To work together so you both have a blessed and well oiled machine. If you want your marriage to work, to make the dream work, you need to be flexible, able to compromise, forgiving, and ready to make adjustments.
Dreamwork
Have you ever sat down, written out, and worked on your dreams. Take a day, a couple of hours, and dream together! It is so important to not just live, work, and exist day in and day out. You need to have dreams… together! Don’t just have dreams for yourself, your children, or your career. You need to work together to dream together! This isn’t about you, this is about a healthy and blessed marriage.
Building A Life Together
Building a life together takes time, effort, forgiving, over and over and over again. This isn’t a 3 strikes your out, this is a forever, a lifetime. Building takes work, a blueprint (the bible), a foundation (Jesus Christ), walls (protection against intruders), a roof (protection against the elements), a door (access), and many treasures are found inside: you, your spouse, and family.
Being A Team
Being a team is a commitment to each other and to God. You will disagree, you will argue, and you will feel like nothing is working at times. But remember that you are a team, there is an enemy and your spouse isn’t that enemy. The devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy. So know your enemy, and work as one with your teammate, or help meet. Because teamwork makes the dream work!! You can have a happilyevermarried!!
Scriptures
Monday: Amos 3:3 says, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed.” We need to be agreed to walk together, to walk in the same direction, to become one. Pray for unity today!
Tuesday: Genesis 2:18 says, “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Pray today God helps you to help, compliment, and become one with your husband.
Wednesday: Ephesians 5:23 says, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” Praying you submit to Gods order, and trust Him to work things out!
Thursday: Ephesians 6:1 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.” Pray over this scripture as you look at the word parents. It doesn’t say one or the other, or over the other. We need support the other as a unified front.
Friday: Ephesians 5:24 says, “Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” We can trust God as we line up with His order, and praying always for a submitted, repentant heart.
Saturday: Deuteronomy 32:30 says, “How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten though and to flight, except their Rock had sold them and the Lord had shut them up?” God can do anything, when we are living for Him, and being one, we can together do more than we can do alone!
Sunday: John 10:10 says, “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, kill, and destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” Pray you remember who the real enemy of your marriage is and bind together with your spouse in Jesus name.
Prayer
We are praying today that you learn to become one, to work as a team, to prefer one another. For you ladies, to submit, obey, and trust God has you! Trust the process and order. Praying the men remember to love your wives as Christ loved the church that He gave Himself for it. Helping her when she needs it, looking for ways to love her. Praying for a strong marriage that is forever! For patience through the tough times, and lots of forgiveness to go around!
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