Sometimes we are so busy we don't stop to be present. We live in a fast paced world; our work is fast, our food is fast, our internet is fast, but we aren't supposed to live in high speed. We do go through seasons when we are very busy, but that doesn't negate the fact that we need time with our spouse. Real time alone, quiet, and present.
We are on vacation right now, the week before we post this blog, and really get to be present. It doesn't mean we aren't at home, because we are. What it does mean is we get extra time to be present, to talk, to sit together, walk, take in the beauty of this world, and become one all over again. Vacation is a place where we aren't doing the usual everyday work, cleaning, and running. We are in a place where we can cook food and still both pitch in, but are having fun even in that. It's time together and that's what matters.
We are a team. Period. We talk about this often, and love that we both work so well together. This is also about being present. We see each others needs, and because we are present, we can act on what the other needs. If we are on our phone the whole time, we miss so much. We have learned over the years that being present creates a place of trust. We know the other one really cares, and because of this we are a great team!
We have done several business's together. We love working together, and being together. Even on vacation we are doing some work, but we have agreed on what we will do by setting boundaries. Being present is about boundaries. We have to set times to do certain things so we can be present during 'us' time. We support each other too!! This is so huge! We don't feel it takes away from us, because we are having fun helping others and realize the allotted time will help us to do the things we value.
Relaxing in the sun may seem boring to some, but we love it and agree on that time. We also are present by deciding what to do next so we can be present together. Relaxation is key to being present!! If you are always in a hurry and not stopping to smell the roses, or ocean, you will never appreciate all that God has blessed you with!! If your vacation is full with things to do, places to go, and never a moment to relax, you will never truly be present in any area. We have so many distractions, and miss out on precious time with our spouse. STOP, sit down, look into each others eyes, and see the one you love and married!!
Who likes leftovers?? I will say, I for one, do not!! I will eat them because I don't like waste, but it's never as good as the moment you had when it was fresh, piping hot, and the smell took you off your feet. Is your spouse getting your leftovers? Do you give them the rest of what you have left for the day? I know we all have things we have to do, seasons that demand our attention, and times we are so busy, but, we need to make it a priority to not give our spouse the leftover of our heart, time, affection, and us being present!! You should smell good, have a piping hot love for one another, and sweep them off their feet with your adoration, words, actions, and touch! Marriage is a place for you to show your most loving side. Don't short change them or yourself with your day old self. Take a moment, freshen up, focus, flirt with your spouse, kiss, grab their hand, go on a date and give them your best!!!
Being Present With His Presence
The desire you have for God will flow over into your relationship with your spouse not the other way around!! It can be a hindrance if you don't desire God first. If you put your spouse first you and your spouse will never be satisfied. That is a load too heavy for anyone to carry. You can't expect them to fulfill your every need, and have a good marriage. You have to be present with His Presence first each day and then your marriage, and other relationships will work well. Jesus is the answer to every issue, problem, and good thing that happens in your marriage. Seek Him First!! My friend this will be life changing when you are intentional and apply this to your marriage.
Monday: Luke 10:40-41 says, "But Martha was distracted with all her preparations; and she came up to Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to do all the serving alone? Then tell her to help me. But the Lord answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things;" When we are too busy we lose sight of what and who is most important.
Tuesday: Matthew 11:28 says, "“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest." It's ok to take a vacation. You can stop and reassess where you are with Jesus and your spouse. We go to Jesus and he gives us rest!! Sometimes that comes in the form of being present in an unfamiliar place so we can be more aware of what is going on!
Wednesday: Psalm 46:10 says, "“Cease striving and know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth." When you are a team with your spouse, you have to agree, to stop arguing, and then God will be exalted!! Unity in your marriage is everything!
Thursday: 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 says, "And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you; That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing." Doing what God has put in our hands with integrity and being present helps us to keep our values and time set with boundaries in our marriage.
Friday: Philippians 4:6, says, "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God." We can't be anxious and relaxed at the same time. When we are present we can look at what is going on and put it in God's hands so we can enjoy the moment He has given us on this earth with our spouse!
Saturday: Solomon 3:4 says, “I Have Found the One My Soul Loves.” When you find that one whom your soul loves, give them your best not the rest of what everyone else had that day!
Sunday: Psalm 63:1 says, "O God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee, my flesh longeth for thee in a dry and thirsty land, where no water is;" Putting Jesus first gives you refreshing to give to your spouse and everyone and everything else!! He fills us like no other!!
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